Survey reveals dads need reassurance
June 15, 2012
Just in time for Father's Day, a new survey conducted by the Today Show and Parenting.com reveals some insight on the role of dads.
The online survey of more than 4,000 parents (1,500 dads and 2,700 moms) reveals that the division of childcare and household chores remains a source of contention for many families. MSNBC reports that while half of dads said they equally split childcare duties with their wives, 75 percent of moms said they do most of the work when it comes to taking care of their kids.
In addition, 95 percent of moms said that they are the "go-to" parent when it comes to their kids needing or wanting something done for them. More than a third of dads disagree, saying they are the one their kids come to when they need adult help or input.
Many dads also say that they don't enjoy playing the role of secondary parent, especially when 75 percent say they are doing more than their own fathers did in terms of helping with household and childcare responsibilities.
One of the most interesting findings of the poll is that nearly two-thirds of dads say they crave reassurance from their wives when it comes to their efforts.
"Dads need the reassurance," psychiatrist Dr.Charles Sophy told MSNBC. "So you say, 'Great job changing that diaper,' and I know moms are like, 'Are you kidding me, what do want, applause?' But if you want him to change four more diapers, you better applaud at some level."
Added Brock Griffin, a spokesperson for the National Center for Fathering, "show appreciation for your spouse, look for the positives. Moms and dads do things differently, and kids need both sides. As long as the kid isn't actually in danger, give him the space to do it his way."
Moms pursuing a college degree know firsthand that sharing parenting and household duties with a spouse can make this busy time in their lives easier. However, single mothers can build a support network consisting of friends, family members and neighbors to help them while they're attending college and beyond.
Luckily, regardless of your marital status, moms can get financial support to make their dream of getting a college education a reality. Scholarships for mothers, grants and other financial aid can help offset the high cost of becoming a college graduate.
