Reaching out for the right help
September 17, 2012
New and expecting mothers, as well as women with older children at home, understand that going to school is a second full-time job on top of the ones they already have. Add to that the fact that single mothers have a third working schedule to deal with and it's easy to see the stress adding up. One of the most important things a woman should do, especially if there's a baby on the way, is be as open and communicative with teachers as possible. Missing too much class can sometimes put college scholarships in jeopardy, so being certain that professors and students are on the same page is important.
Staying on target
From day one, get to know the teacher on a professional basis. If there is some ambiguity as to a person's title, using "Professor" is a safe bet. Otherwise, a PhD is a "Doctor" and any other teacher is "Mister" or "Miss." Addressing an unmarried woman as "Misses" can be a bad way to start a relationship. Stopping by during that teacher's office hours to discuss classwork and other concerns about the class shows an honest interest in the material and a desire to learn, which will create a positive impression in that professor's mind.
This will be helpful later if, due to family or physical needs, a college mom is not able to be in class. Most teachers will be considerate of these circumstances, but it is important to make every attempt to be in class as often as possible in order to remain in good academic standing.
Get documentation
Wherever applicable, having a note can make all the difference. Staying home to take care of a sick child usually includes a visit to the doctor, and getting documentation of that event can be given either directly to the teacher or the school's administrative office. This will count as an excused absence and therefore won't count against any existing attendance policies a college or teacher may enforce. Some institutions don't have such guidelines in place, but going the extra mile to show extenuating circumstances will prove that it is a serious obligation, rather than disinterest or lethargy, that kept a single mom from attending class that day.
Remember that in cases of long-term absence, a college scholarship may be withdrawn without correct supporting information. Be sure to carefully read the requirements of any accepted grants or funds in order to safeguard academic continuity.
